A different way to step into 2026

Have you ever set a goal for the new year, started off with the best intentions, and then by March noticed yourself slowly drifting away from it?

It wasn’t a lack of desire.
It wasn’t a lack of determination.

There was simply something missing from the process

I see this all the time in my work with clients. There is a deep desire for change and a strong sense of motivation, yet somehow they still come up short. Over time, I’ve noticed a few common reasons why this happens.

Lack of positive motivation

I talk a lot on this blog about the power of motivation. It’s one of the most powerful tools we have for taking action.

There are two types of motivation: positive and negative.

Positive motivation comes from wanting something because of gain, pleasure, or happiness. Negative motivation comes from wanting something because of shame, guilt, judgment, or fear.

When we set goals When we set goals from a place of negative motivation, for example, “I need to work out more because I hate how I look at this weight,” we often abandon the goal altogether. The mind instinctively rejects negativity, even when the intention is self-improvement.

When we set goals from a place of positive motivation, such as, “I want to work out because I feel happier and more alive when I move my body,” we create change that is more sustainable.

Our mind instinctively seeks ease, lightness, and love.

Mismatch between mind and body

The mind and body are deeply connected. They are in constant communication with one another.

What we eat and how we move all influence how our minds think and feel. What we think and believe will influence how we feel in our bodies.

When we set a goal without addressing the beliefs that limit or contradict it, the body often steps in and sabotages our ability to follow through. The body is aware that the mind is not fully aligned with this goal, so it will be unable to complete it.

The same happens when we do not tune into the body and seek to understand the symptoms with an interconnected point of view; we will likely miss the connecting piece for our goal to be completed.

Our language 

Our words matter. Our words matter more than we sometimes realize. When we talk in “shoulds and should nots”, “woulds and would nots”, and “cans and can’ts”, we subtly reinforce internal pressure and self-judgment. Over time, this language creates resistance and self-sabotage

Our body listens to our mind, so if we base our goals on this, we perceive as right or wrong without making sure these beliefs are what we want, we will ultimately remain unhappy and unsatisfied with the results.

So, how do I look at my new year?

For me, the key to success is slowing down. Taking time. Turning inward. Allowing space to dream.

To really understand what we want our life to look like and feel like. We want to get very specific about our dream but remain flexible about how we get there.

This is what I help clients do.

I help them uncover their true goal and integrate it into both the mind and the body, so it no longer feels like something they are forcing, but something they are becoming naturally.

I’m doing a version of this work in my upcoming workshop called F*ck the Hustle: Learn to live and lead differently. It’s a workshop designed to help high achievers, highly motivated individuals, people who may be changing careers, or those who want to take a step back and change direction. We learn how to unblock their mind and find what they really want out of life. Then we align the mind and body, creating an opportunity for this dream to become a reality.

This workshop is happening in Brooklyn, NY, on Saturday, the 17th, at the Life Wellness Center. If you are interested, here is the link to sign up.

This may be the missing key you’ve been searching for to finally allow your dreams to come to life this year.

Services I offer:

• Reiki, 30 & 60 minutes

• Health Coaching Sessions using my NLP and Nursing background

• Essential oil rollers & all-purpose cleaning spray

Mark your calendar — some upcoming event

• IN PERSON, F*CK THE HUSTLE, Brooklyn

  Discover the Freedom to Live & Lead Differently
  👉️ Learn how to pursue ambition without sacrificing well-being

  Date: Saturday, January 17th

  Time: 10 am- 12 pm EST

  Location: Life Wellness Center
  376 Tompkins Ave, Brooklyn, NY, 11216

  Tickets here