I'm tending to my seeds

When I first started HealthE Wellness, my mission was simple: to help everyone and anyone who needed support.

As a bedside nurse, I would see clients come in, listen closely to what they needed, and do my best to help them while they were in the hospital. I also tried to give them support for what life would look like once they went home, because I knew the real work often started after discharge.

But I learned something quickly. Even when I could see what someone truly needed, I couldn’t always provide the level of care I felt they deserved after they left the hospital. Not because I didn’t want to, but because of the limits of the healthcare system.

That’s where HealthE Wellness began. It became a space where I could slow down, sit with people, and support them in a more personal way. I could actually learn who they were, what they wanted, what they were struggling with, and what was keeping them stuck.

The more I learned about Reiki, NLP, aromatherapy, and whole-person wellness, the more I began to notice patterns everywhere. And when you’re trained to notice patterns, you see everything—the loops people repeat, the coping habits they rely on, the “I’m fine” mask, and the guilt that comes right after.

I started hearing the same phrases again and again:
“I wish I had more self-control.”
“I shouldn’t have done that.”
“I’m fine… I like being this busy.”
“I don’t need rest.”
“I am jealous - I can’t do that.”
“I’m doing everything, but nothing is working.”
“Why can’t I be more like her?”

What made it even harder was that these weren’t always strangers. Sometimes it was my family. My friends. The people I loved most. And when you love someone deeply, it’s hard not to jump in. It’s hard not to give advice, or fix it for them, or try to carry the weight with them.

But over time, I had to learn two important truths:
1. You can’t coach people without consent
2. You can’t force change.

Even if your intentions are pure. Even if you think you have the right answer. Even if you want it for them more than they want it for themselves.

Real change requires something deeper. It requires readiness and ownership. It requires that moment inside someone that says, “I’m ready to do this differently.” And until someone decides that for themselves, pressure doesn’t create change. It creates resistance.

So I started shifting my approach. Instead of trying to coach the people around me, I started planting seeds. I started offering support gently and with permission—without pushing, without forcing, and without coming from a place of “I know better.”

I would say things like, “Can I share something that helped one of my clients?” or “I read something and thought of you; would you be open to it?” or “I learned something interesting about ‘x’, can I share it?”

And the surprising thing is, when people have space, they soften. When there isn’t judgment, they get curious. When there isn’t pressure, they start to question the pattern. Slowly, I’ve watched people take one small step forward, and then another.

Sometimes months later, they come back and say, “Hey… I listened to that podcast you mentioned. Can we talk?” That’s a seed.

Because people don’t change when you’re ready. They change when they’re ready.

And as someone who supports women 1:1 through hormone shifts, stress, burnout, life transitions, and identity changes, I’ve learned the most powerful thing we can do isn’t “fix.” It’s to hold space. It’s to trust timing. It’s to ask better questions. It’s to offer support without attachment.

And the best part is this: when people finally choose change for themselves, it lasts. Because it isn’t fueled by guilt, pressure, or fear. It’s fueled by readiness and the desire to live differently.

If you’re looking for change, I have one question for you: What do you want to feel more of this year?
Feel free to reply and let me know.

Services I offer:

• Reiki, 30 & 60 minutes

• Health Coaching Sessions using my NLP and Nursing background

• Essential oil rollers & all-purpose cleaning spray

Mark your calendar — some upcoming event

• IN PERSON, Fort Greene Market, Brooklyn:

  Date: Saturday, January 31st

  Time: 9 am - 4 pm EST

  Location: Fort Greene Park, Cross Street

  DeKalb Avenue & S Portland Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11205