I Thought I Was an Anxious Person

I used to label myself as an anxious person.

“I just like things a certain way. I just have to do it myself, not a big deal. That way it will get done correctly.”

I said it so casually, like just another thing about me. Almost like I was saying, “I have brown hair.”

I remember going back to grad school and being on the cusp of handing in a final. All ready to submit, and my computer crashed. The internet failed to upload my document. I sat there staring at the screen and thought,

“Oh, I failed. I just failed grad school. Now I’m going to get fired from my job because they will see this grade and know I’m incompetent. I can’t believe I’m so stupid.”

Needless to say, I was spiraling. I was having a full-blown freak-out, thinking everything was coming down around me. I thought everything was wrong.

But looking back now, I see it so differently.

I wasn’t an anxious person.
I wasn’t a control freak.

I was experiencing anxious behavior in a moment that didn’t feel safe for my body.

So I did what I had learned to do…

I tried to control everything.

I realize now that my behavior wasn’t me. It was what happened in that situation that triggered deeper beliefs, like:

“I have to get this right.”

“If I fail, I’m not enough.”

“I need to prove myself.”

“I’m not smart.”

My body tensed up. My heart rate increased. I started sweating. My mind shut down. And I was snippy with everyone trying to help.

Because in that moment, I wasn’t just submitting an assignment… I was bracing for an attack on my worth. Just as if I had to fight off a bear. I was preparing for battle.

And I remember realizing, at some point in that experience, I don’t want to feel like this anymore. I didn’t like the person I became when something didn’t go according to plan, or when I felt uncertain.

So I started to shift. I started to do the work.

I separated myself from my actions and dug into what lay beneath the surface that made me feel that way. What patterns, what beliefs, what was the story I was telling myself?

I found support in things like NLP and Reiki.

I began to shift. And slowly, instead of seeing the world end, I began to see options when things felt uncertain or changed.

This is the work I’m bringing into my new community.

But a space where you can begin to:

understand your patterns

explore the beliefs underneath them

and start relating to yourself in a different way

This isn’t about quick fixes or overnight transformation.

It’s about having a place to come back to learn, reflect, and reconnect with yourself over time.

I’m opening 10 free spots for a 3-month trial starting in May.

If you’ve been feeling stuck in patterns that don’t quite make sense, or like you’ve been trying to “fix” yourself for a long time, or you want to find more time for yourself within your current life, this might be a supportive place to start.

It’s a community built on async reflections and monthly group coaching. The goal of this community is to help women start reconnecting with themselves by noticing their patterns, questioning the pressure they’ve been living under, and creating small moments that feel more supportive and sustainable.

If you want more information or want to grab a spot, email me back.

If you’re curious how your nervous system tends to respond under stress, whether you tighten, over-function, internalize, or freeze, I created a short quiz to help you see your pattern clearly.

Because awareness is where change begins.

Services I offer:

• Reiki, 30 & 60 minutes

• Health Coaching Sessions using my NLP and Nursing background

• Essential oil rollers & all-purpose cleaning spray

Mark your calendar — some upcoming event

• IN PERSON, Fort Greene Market, Brooklyn:

  Date: Saturday April 4th

  Time: 9 am - 4 pm EST

  Location: Fort Greene Park, Brooklyn, NY

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  Date: Sunday, April 19th

  Time: 1- 3 pm EST

  Location: Life Wellness Center
  376 Tompkins Ave, Brooklyn, NY, 11216
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