Let’s play pretend again

I was talking to a client the other day about the idea of opportunity and how it affects our health and wellness.

Do you remember as a kid how you had a boundless imagination? For me, I had the ability to change my forks and knives into families. I could make my stuffed animal be a patient that I could nurse back to health. I could take paper and colored pencils and create a whole Hollywood production.

What I mean is I saw a relatively dull and unimpressive object and found countless ways to use it, play with it, or create it into something unique. What did I really have? Endless opportunity. I had an infinite choice.

I didn’t realize until I was an adult how much that idea of choice really could change my reality.

It’s in the moments that we feel like there is only one choice ahead of us that we don’t like that bring up the feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and stress. We pigeonhole ourselves into believing there is only one behavior, one action, one way to do something.

For example, I used to believe the only way to answer an invitation was a yes. Even when it wasn’t something I particularly wanted to do, I felt like that was my only choice because it would bring me friends, love, and connection. If I didn’t make this choice, I would lose something, something important to me.

But when I started this work, I began to realize something. I lost that superpower—that superpower of endless opportunity.

So I began trying to challenge myself to create more choices, more opportunities.
Instead of only being able to say “yes”. I realized that I could say “thank you for the invitation, but tonight isn’t a good night, “yes, but can we do it another night?” or I could also simply just say “no. All of these are choices. All are opportunities to change my own behavior. My intention to build friendship, love, and connection remains the same, but I can change my decision, which in turn changes my actions.

I’ve seen this show up in so many areas of life. In how we move our bodies, in what we believe our health has to look like, and in how much we give before we rest. We tell ourselves there is one right way, one correct plan, one version of ourselves we need to fit into. When we begin to widen the lens and question those assumptions, space opens up. Space to listen. Space to choose differently. Space to respond instead of react.

Creating choice is a skill. It’s something we can relearn. This is exactly what I help women do in my work. Once you can see endless choices, decisions are easier because you can select the outcome you desire. You no longer have to feel backed into a corner or fit a mold that may no longer support you. Instead, you have agency, clarity, and the ability to choose what truly aligns with you.

Services I offer:

• Reiki, 30 & 60 minutes

• Health Coaching Sessions using my NLP and Nursing background

• Essential oil rollers & all-purpose cleaning spray

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• IN PERSON, F*CK THE HUSTLE, Brooklyn

  Discover the Freedom to Live & Lead Differently
  👉️ Learn how to pursue ambition without sacrificing well-being

  Date: Saturday, January 17th

  Time: 10 am- 12 pm EST

  Location: Life Wellness Center
  376 Tompkins Ave, Brooklyn, NY, 11216

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