There Are No Coincidences

Have you ever wondered why it sometimes feels like something just falls into your lap?

You’re thinking of someone, and they call.
You’ve been craving change, and an opportunity appears.
You’ve been thinking about something, and suddenly it appears.

It can feel like life is full of small coincidences. Little things that just happen to happen.

But here’s the thing: I don’t believe in coincidence.

I believe in aligned action.

There was a time when I was working as a nurse, and on paper, everything looked successful. I had a stable career, in a leadership role, with a full calendar. But every morning, I woke up with no real joy to start my day.

I’d open my eyes at 7 am and immediately turn my phone on to see everything that was waiting for me. I saw a calendar packed with meetings, 40 Slack messages, and 20 unread emails. And suddenly I felt dread.

So I did what I thought was responsible, for high-achieving adults do. I wanted to get ahead, so I started working from bed.

I would prioritize everything and answer quick messages before brushing my teeth, then rush through a 20-minute workout, and take a quick shower before work really "started.”
Then plug into work, taking on more projects, more responsibility, more everything, often until well past 8 pm when my husband would call me for dinner.

Even then, I didn’t feel done. I’d log off the computer, but continue answering emails from my phone until I fell asleep.

And then I would wake up and do it all over again. I did this for years.

My routine often meant skipping full meals and justifying it as “fasting,” feeling snappy with my husband when things weren’t “perfect,” dreaming about work and solving problems in my sleep, and waking up already exhausted. I over-scheduled my personal calendar, said yes when I wanted to say no, and carried the quiet guilt of never feeling caught up.

On the outside, I was high-functioning and responsible. I had a good job, a good partner, a good apartment, and I looked good. On the inside, I was disconnected. I was tired in a way sleep couldn’t fix, constantly proving, constantly trying to stay ahead, and constantly terrified I was going to miss something.

And then I was sitting in a doctor’s appointment, being told I had a thyroid issue.

That’s when it hit me.

Not just because of the diagnosis, but because I recognized the pattern.

I had been here before.

In high school and college, when my parents divorced, and my world felt unstable, control became my coping mechanism. It showed up as disordered eating. And later in college, it appeared as panic attacks. It was perfectionism. The quiet belief that if I could just do everything “right,” I would finally feel safe and worth.

That old pattern was still running; it was just dressed up differently.

This time, it looked like overworking, over-scheduling, over-functioning, and over-structuring.

But underneath?

It was the same fear.

But I realized there was a difference this time - I was different.
I was aware that I had more than one choice, and that awareness changed everything.

I could lean into the fear. I could continue down the same path: blame my body, override the signals, suppress the beliefs underneath it all, and gaslight myself into thinking I was “fine.”
OR
I could reevaluate my life, reprioritize myself, and rewrite the inner critic that had been quietly running the show for years - and that is what I did.

I set boundaries with work, with family, and with friends. I prioritized intentionally moving my body. I stopped answering emails from bed. I reframed the stress I carried. And slowly, I began leaning into ease instead of constant urgency.

And the result?

Slowly, my body began to heal, and I started noticing the small “coincidences.”

I was introduced to people who had been on similar journeys. I started to have conversations that felt energizing. Opportunities surfaced that felt meant for me instead of forced. My relationships became easier, and I felt more connected to those I loved.

It wasn’t that life just suddenly changed; it was that I did.

When I stopped overriding myself, I could understand what I really wanted.
When I stopped forcing things, I could see everything that was already in front of me.
When I stopped trying to overdoing, I could see all the support I already had.

What once felt random started to feel intentional because I finally understood what I wanted enough to recognize what did and didn’t fit.

Alignment isn’t about everything working out perfectly.

It’s about being connected enough to yourself to respond when life nudges you.

And life is always nudging.

If you’re curious how your nervous system tends to respond under stress, whether you tighten, over-function, internalize, or freeze, I created a short quiz to help you see your pattern clearly.

Because awareness is where change begins.

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• Reiki, 30 & 60 minutes

• Health Coaching Sessions using my NLP and Nursing background

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