What If It Goes Right?

This week, I found myself thinking a lot about risk.

Risk is a spectrum from blowing up your life and moving across the country to trying a new type of cuisine.

It can show up every day, in simple ways, and it has caused me to tune in more over the last week.

Like in moments where I found myself:

1. Auditing a finance class and sitting in a room where we talked about how people think about investing something personal, like their money.

2. Talking with a client about taking a lunch break during the day.

3. Debating whether I should go to a party where I did not really know anyone.

4. Deciding whether I should set a boundary with a loved one.

And it hit me, most of us are not avoiding risk because we are lazy or unmotivated.

We do it because of fear.

We do not usually call it fear, though.

We call it being responsible.
We call it being productive.
We call it feeling uncomfortable.
We call it “just how things are right now.”

But underneath it, there is often a quiet narrative running:

What if I fall behind everyone else?
What if people do not like me?
What if I look like an idiot?
What if this does not work the way I want it to?

So instead of taking the risk, we choose safety. We choose to stay in a familiar space because it is easier than trying something new.

And here is the part that I think we do not talk about enough:

Your body experiences risk as unsafe. It is programmed to keep us safe. When we are safe and predictable, we are more likely to stay alive. It is a basic instinct. And risk does not have to be just big risks; it is any deviation from what is familiar.

For the first few years, when I moved to NYC, I moved through cycles of anxiety, sadness, and disconnection. And what that actually looked like day to day was trying to live in two places at once. Part of me was physically in New York, building a life, showing up, doing what I was supposed to do. And another part of me, mentally and emotionally, was still back home, trying desperately not to be left behind in the place and with the people I grew up with. I was just holding on to what felt safe.

It was me questioning if I made the right decision.
It was me wanting to go back, even when I knew I wanted to be in the same city as the person I loved.
It was me trying to recreate familiarity instead of allowing myself to build something new.

Because being in this unknown state of change did not feel safe yet.

And this is the part nobody talks about: nothing was wrong, but my body felt overwhelmed, so it went into a protective mode.

Instead of diving into the next experience, I was living halfway in and halfway out. And living in this in-between was exhausting.

What I learned through coaching, NLP, and Reiki was that in this moment of change and uncertainty, I had to accept and just be, because I chose to make NYC work. I began to understand what lay at the root of my beliefs, to challenge their validity, and to reframe them. I started to shift my energy by reconnecting with my body and giving it the support it needed, even on a subconscious level.

This work allowed me to show up in NYC, make real connections with friends, and build a career, all while maintaining the same, if not better, connections with the people back home. I learned that living in two worlds was not the answer, so I allowed myself to merge into one more aligned and intentional life.

And what this experience showed me is that the things we fear most often are not what break us; they are what expand us.

But when we think about taking those steps, about doing the things that feel uncomfortable or uncertain, we often only focus on what could go wrong.

What if we also considered what could go right?

Perhaps we gain a new friend. Perhaps we learn something new. Perhaps we gain some time for ourselves. Perhaps we gain a new idea or perspective.

Because the truth is, discomfort and misalignment are not the same thing.

Sometimes the things we deeply desire require change, and that can feel uncomfortable before it becomes safe.

So maybe the question is not, “What might go wrong?”

But instead, “What might this open up for me?”

Because you do not need to eliminate fear to move forward, so you can know if it brings you closer to the life you desire.

You just need to be willing to take one step, even when it feels unfamiliar.
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