Why do we always want to get to the end of everything?

Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m so ready to be at the end”?

Now this can refer to so many different things. End of a movie, end of a date, end of a week, end of a day, end of this lease… the list can keep going. We usually want to fast-forward to just “get through” something we deem harmful or undesirable to reach whatever we think will make us happy or energize us.

But if you think about it, what is really the end? While we are living, isn’t it all just the “middle”?

And if it’s all just the middle, then why are we rushing through it?

We’re so focused on getting to the “after” or the “next thing” that we forget the “right now.” We forget that the middle is where life actually happens.

The middle is the awkward conversations, the joyful moments, trying new things and maybe failing a few times, the slow mornings, the messy healing, the tiny victories no one else sees. The middle is where we learn about ourselves and build resilience, self-worth, self-trust, and confidence. The middle is where we create our life. Our dreams.

It’s where we meet our community, create our passion, and find happiness.

The middle can feel uncomfortable, or uncertain, or not as shiny as the finish line we’ve imagined, so we try to skip it. We label it a burden.

What if the middle isn’t something to endure, but something to experience?

What if we label it as an opportunity instead? A chance to build on our own skills, our foundations, and our lives.

We have the opportunity to try new things, to expand, to refine who we are becoming… all right here in the middle.

And the more we allow ourselves to be present in the middle, the more we start to notice things we never saw before. We notice how far we’ve come, even if we’re not “there” yet. It’s in this middle time that we have an opportunity to connect with others, to see the little nudges, try new things, or witness the subtle shifts that guide us toward what’s meant for us.

Sometimes in the middle, we need to learn to let go of control — to flow with what life has to offer and take the best next right step for the life we want.

The thing is, the “end” is always just another beginning.
We finish something only to start a new chapter, a new question, a new desire, a new dream. Life is always evolving, so we are always in the middle.

So instead of rushing, what if we lean into the ease?

What if we accepted this moment, exactly as it is, to be enough?
What if we honored this middle ground as the place where the real transformation happens — where all the fun things about life happen?

The truth is: the middle is where you build the life you’re craving. And once we get comfortable in the middle, we have true happiness.

So maybe the goal isn’t to get to the end anymore. Perhaps the goal is to be fully alive in the middle.

Mark your calendar — some upcoming event

I have REALLY exciting news this year: I will be featured at a few holiday markets in Brooklyn, NYC, selling my famous essential oils!

• IN PERSON, Fort Greene Market, Brooklyn:

  Date: Saturday, December 13th

  Time: 9 am - 4 pm EST
  👉️Grab your favorite holiday gifts - free access!

  Location: Fort Greene Park Cross Street

  DeKalb Avenue & S Portland Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11205

• IN PERSON, F*CK THE HUSTLE, Brooklyn

  Discover the Freedom to Live & Lead Differently
  👉️ Learn how to pursue ambition without sacrificing well-being

  Date: Saturday, January 17th

  Time: 10 am- 12 pm EST

  Location: Life Wellness Center
  376 Tompkins Ave, Brooklyn, NY, 11216

  Book Appointment> Classes and Workshop> F*ck the Hustle workshop.